The First Lady
Indeed, this ‘First ladyship’ was birthed from the pit of Lucifer. For years there has been a pandemic of religious heresy which has spread throughout churches of the world where wives of pastors and bishops in certain organisations, especially apostolic organisations, have been exalted and given the status of first lady. This should never be as the church is not a part of an earthly family inheritance. Bishops are not kings who pass the leadership of the monarch through their earthly lineage. God gives leadership to whom he pleases. Church is NOT a dynasty. It is a place of fellowship and worship where all are equal.
These women have been placed by man to be second in command to their husbands even if this was never ordained by Jesus Christ. Church members hold them in high esteem and they are the ones who many will listen to, hence, the backsliding of so many churches. It is absolutely tragic that indeed so many of these First ladies are not filled with the Holy Ghost and can therefore be seen as no different from the WAGS (wives and girlfriends) of the English football team. Their knowledge of responsibility in the church is only flaunting the cash that weary believers drop on the altar- hoping to receive a blessing.
There is hardly any first lady who leads the house of God into worship. There is also no record of a first lady in the Bible. They have become the Vashtis of these organisations, leading silly women astray. These women have been a symbol of backsliding as the ‘title’ ‘First Lady’ has been bestowed upon them by those who profess to know God. This is extremely heartrending as the focus has been taken away from the real First Lady who is the church, the bride of Jesus Christ. Therefore, that makes everyone the first lady. In a certain organisation that I once attended in Jamaica, it was one of the so called ‘First Ladies’- the daughter -in –law of the Bishop who was instrumental in the destruction of the altar of the main church and the building of a stage with a glass pulpit. Firstly, the tearing down of the altar symbolises the backsliding of the church as the altar represents prayer. No prayer- No God.
These first ladies are like the queen of heaven, a pagan deity who was worshipped by the Israelites, recorded in the book of Jeremiah 7:18-19, ‘The children gather wood, and fathers kindle the fire, and the women knead their dough, to make cakes to the queen of heaven, and pour out drink offerings unto other gods, that they may provoke me to anger.’ For many, what she says is God, even if she is not serving God. She is worshipped by many church members and leads so many into backsliding because they lack discernment.
It has been repeated by many pastors so many times, God is first, my family comes second and the church comes third. This is ridiculous! How can one separate God from his church? Isn’t God the head of the church? How can the body be separated from the head?
Sister Pauline and Sister Ellah, have written about the characteristics of a good wife in the Bible and have given examples such as Abigail and Sarah who did not try to usurp the authority of their husbands but were meek and humble and willing to submit themselves to every Godly command. They also told us about Jezebel and Delilah, who led their husbands and even a whole nation to their demise because the husbands revered them and not the living God.
In the book of Corinthians Paul speaks to the church, 1 Corinthians 14:34-35, ‘Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.’ In addition he says, ‘And if they will learn anything, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.’ At the time this was written to the Corinthian church women were being contentious and raucous and wanted to overpower authority; therefore this command was given. It is not meant that they should not speak at all in church but that they should be observant of protocol when they do so. As today many ‘first ladies’ are given more respect than the pastors themselves. They play a pivotal role in the breaking down of standards. For example, women would never wear jewellery, hair extensions, and trousers or process their hair in the Apostolic Church but since the wives of these pastors began to parade themselves in these abominable things, many women in the church began to do the same because they idolize them.
Speaking about elders in the church Paul in his letter to Titus, Titus 1:5-7, states, ‘…and ordain elders in every city, as I had appointed thee:(6) If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.(7)For a bishop must be blameless, as a steward of God, not self-willed, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre…’ Hence, where the marriage is sound in God, and the wife does that which she has been called to do which is take care of her husband’s physical needs and spiritual needs (praying for him and supporting him in the Gospel) she is sure to get her just reward from God. There was one woman I can remember who has done this. Her name was Mother Joyce Thomas of the Emmanuel Apostolic Church in Kingston Jamaica. This woman never tried to be seen by an audience. She made sure she sought God and was instrumental in teaching young women how to sew and make things for the home. She never ceased to encourage the congregation (when she was called to speak), ‘hold on to God’s unchanging hand’. Today, she is no longer with us and since her death, that organisation has become increasingly backslidden.
Indeed, she should play a pivotal role but if God did not ordain it for her to be working side by side in ministry with her husband, that ministry is certain to fail. Being a Pastor’s or bishop’s wife does not open access to stardom in God’s house! This is not a theatre or the White House! Her role is to make sure her house is in order and that her children are in the right standing with God. She should teach the young ladies how to care for their husbands, children and homes Paul says in the book of Titus 2:3-5, ‘…the aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; (4) That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, (5) to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.’
The First ladyship was never designed by God and will never be designed by him as he has ordered his sons not to put up any idols before him. This is an abominable act that warrants death. Such ladyship has led to many spiritual casualties in the church as too many people have been led into backsliding, seeing sinning as a light thing- not realising that every action is being paid by God.